When I was growing up, I really used to look forward to the holidays. Being away from the demanding environment of school was alluring, and the last days after exams would be spent in longing and making plans for the holidays.
The first day home would pass in a blur, but by the end of the first few days, I would have this strange feeling of being out of place. The holiday season brought me a lot of joy, celebration, and togetherness. However, it also came with its fair share of stress, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm.
This is so for many children and parents, sometimes as they hustle to provide for their children, rarely take time to support their children to thrive during the holiday season beyond providing basic needs. It’s understandable given the many demands of life. However, putting up a holiday plan will help nurture your child’s resilience during the holidays. It is an opportune time to reconnect, instill values, comfort, rebalance, and know your child better.
Many things affect a child’s mental health during holidays. This includes changes in routine, overstimulation, and even feelings of loneliness. As parents and caregivers, it’s important to be mindful of how the holiday season impacts our children and take intentional steps to nurture their mental health.
Children thrive on routine and predictability. While holidays bring excitement, they also disrupt familiar schedules, introduce new social expectations, and sometimes even expose children to family tensions. Some common stressors include:
1. Create a Sense of Routine
Even though school is out, maintaining a basic daily structure helps children feel secure. Try to keep consistent meal and bedtime routines while allowing some flexibility for holiday activities.
Testimonial: I have found that for me, what works for my three children is waking up, simple grooming, breakfast, assignments, lunch, play, bathing, a bit of TV, dinner adjusted as per age needs. The older ones will have age-appropriate chores as part of their routine, the youngest one will have a nap scheduled in. This means each child has their own routine, as is suitable for their age. They know what is expected of them and what to expect, save for days when we have other holiday special activities scheduled. I usually work from home, but even when away, I ensure that my nanny knows the routine and helps the children stick to it, then we do a quick check in the evening.
2. Encourage Emotional Expression
Let your child know that all feelings are okay—whether they are excited, overwhelmed, or even sad. Provide a safe space for them to talk about their emotions without fear of judgment.
3. Prioritize Meaningful Connection
Children value time with their loved ones more than gifts or grand celebrations. Simple activities like baking together, playing games, or reading stories can create lasting memories and reinforce emotional security. You can try to involve them in what you are doing so as to kill two birds with one stone, or tag them along as you go about activities if appropriate. In the case of more than one child, try to set some quality time with each, doing something they enjoy.
4. Limit Overstimulation
Bright lights, loud music, and busy schedules can be overwhelming. Ensure your child has moments of calm throughout the day—for quiet play, reading time, or even mindfulness exercises can help them recharge. This can be achieved by limiting screen time and allowing them time to play outside or interact with others.
5. Set Realistic Expectations
Talk to your child about what to expect during the holidays. Let them know that it’s okay if things don’t go as planned and that the season is about love and togetherness, not perfection.
6. Encourage Gratitude and Giving
Teaching children the value of gratitude and generosity can help them focus on the joy of giving rather than material gifts. Activities like writing thank-you notes, donating toys, or making handmade gifts can promote their emotional well-being.
7. Watch for Signs of Stress or Anxiety
Some children may struggle more than others. Watch for signs such as mood swings, trouble sleeping, frequent tummy aches, or withdrawal from activities they usually enjoy. If needed, provide extra reassurance or seek professional support.
Testimonial: When my daughter joined playgroup, I would find that when she came home, she would be super moody and difficult. My plan for her was to snack, bathe, do homework, play then watch TV. I found that if she came and I spent some time hugging her, then I bathed her, then let her eat and play, she would do her homework joyfully, and we had an easier time. I realized at home she first needed connection, rest, and recharge. We still do this to date. Each child reacts differently, you just have to pay some attention to support their well-being.
How do you support your child's mental health during the holidays? Share your thoughts in the comments! 💬👇
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